In light of your conversation with Dometic, I would get the correct size metal plug as a short term fix, order the Dometic plastic part, when you receive the Dometic part remove the metal one (and keep it around as an emergency spare), get a round stiff wire brush for holes and clean out the tank threads, and install the Dometic correct part. If it still leaks, your tank threads are probably so messed up that they won't seal water properly. I don't think teflon tape is supposed to be used with plastic pipe plugs.
BTW, my Suburban 12 gallon water heater produced around 2007, has an original metal (brass?) pipe plug on it.
Having 2 systems of tank overpressure protection (pressure relief valve and plastic drain plug) seems like a little safety overprotection. In my my many years of RVing, I have NEVER heard of a hot water tank pressure exploding. Most everybody has had the overprotection valve leaking, (usually due to hard water deposits) though.