I will add this experience lesson to this thread. My first time out with a friction sway bar, I tightened the crap out of it. The label and instructions said "bottom out the threads" which I took to mean "the tighter the better.". Not so. Worked fine on the freeway, then I pull into a shopping center parking lot and hear all kinds of creeking and moaning which I figured were normal. Next I hear a loud bang and snap at the tightest part of the turn. When I go check, I realized the sway hitch ball had snapped clean off the ball mount. I also realized that bottoming out the threads din't mean cranking down to the max.
These friction bars work fine with moderate pressure and without lubrication. They don't creak as much and they don't snap. All I do now is go a quarter turn past snug. I could probably crank two more turns out of it, but already saw what happens there. When I went to buy the replacement hitch ball, the guy at the service center told me he was surprised I didn't break the bar itself because he has seen that a lot. He now tells people to take off the sway bar as soon as you get off the freeway. I wont go that far, but I will never crank it with my full body weight ever again either.