Marv, I use the same method to dump.
I would guess that no black water would get into gray 1 or 2 IF after doing the black tank the way you describe and then let both gray tanks dump together, THEN leave the gray tanks open, then you could pretty much assure yourself that only gray 1 would dump into gray 2 without a problem.
However, once you hit the sanitation station, even though you would have all valves closed at that time, you would still have gray water dumping onto the road before you could get the hose attached. Since it is only gray water, no harm (it would even wash away someone else's black water boo boo).