I just replaced my Anderson valve cartridge after only 60 or so nights on the road. In my opinion, these things are extremely "delicate" - I've had experience with them from previous coaches and I also read the threads on this forum.
Some suggestions: first, don't ever move the valve while the water pressure is on. I know - shouldn't matter, but these things are delicate. Just look at the O-rings. Second, carry a spare - you'll need it.
I'm not sure if there is anything better out there, but if you have a spare cartridge, it will never be a problem. They are very easy to change.