Joe,
My wife has a couple of things she periodically reminds me of. One is that RV owners just want to enjoy their RVs; they don't want to become experts on everything. Another is that sometimes we have to "speak the truth in love", meaning not as a criticism, but to help the other party come to a better understanding of a given situation.
Now while she expects to enjoy the RV without becoming a maintenance expert, she does expect me to take care of everything. So I start by reading the manuals to understand how things are supposed to work and what I'm expected to do. I have read the Heartland Manual and there are a couple of things from the plumbing section that might help you understand Heartland's viewpoint.
Fresh Water Lines
Vibration and flexing during traveling can cause pipes and fittings to work loose. Check all of the plumbing
connections for leaks on a regular basis and not less than annually. If the water pump runs when all faucets are turned
off, check for a leak. (emphasis added) Be sure the drain valves are closed. Connections and the kitchen and bathroom faucets normally seal with hand tightening and a half turn with a wrench. If a fitting leak persists, disconnect is completely and check for
mineral deposits or foreign material on the sealing surfaces. Clean the surfaces thoroughly and reinstall the fitting. Take
the coach to an authorized service center for repairs if the system continues to leak.
Water Pump
The RV water pump is a 12-volt DC appliance that is activated by a switch found on the monitor panel in the
kitchen area. This switch is designed to activate the pump. This is called a demand system.
If the pump continues to operate whether the faucet is open or closed, check the water tank to see if it
is empty and check to see if there is a leak in the system. (emphasis added)
☛NOTE
DO NOT RUN THE WATER PUMP WITHOUT WATER IN THE SYSTEM. ALWAYS KEEP THE PUMP
SWITCH OFF WHEN THE SYSTEM IS EMPTY OR WHEN CONNECTED TO CITY WATER. (emphasis added) RUNNING
THE PUMP DRY CAN DAMAGE IT AND VOID THE WARRANTY. WHEN LEAVING YOUR CAMPER OR
WHEN PULLING IT DOWN THE ROAD BE SURE TO TURN OFF YOUR WATER PUMP SWITCH.
When you say that the water pump has been leaking for a long time, whether you realize it or not, you're saying that the water pump has been on for that same long time because it isn't pressurized when not turned on. While the leak at the water pump probably indicates a manufacturing defect (perhaps in the pump), turning the pump on while hooked up to city water, contrary to manufacturer's instructions, would be a contributing factor. Said another way, if you're hooked up to city water 99% of the time, and the pump was off, you would not have had any significant leakage onto the flooring (unless there's a check valve defect, as I previously wrote).
Now even though you routinely use a pressure regulator (implying city water connection), perhaps you also do a lot of dry camping where you depend on the water pump and have no city water. Still, from Heartland's point of view, the manual warns that if the pump runs when the faucets are closed, you need to check for a leak.
Believe me, I would also be extremely distressed if I were facing thousands of dollars in repairs. But if there was a possibility that I had in any way not followed the manufacturers directions, or noted their warnings, my disappointment in the manufacturer would be tempered a bit. From Heartland's point of view, following the manual's instructions would have avoided much of the damage you've experienced.
Again, I don't intend for this to sound like a criticism of you; RVs are complex systems and very few of us want to become experts. We just want everything to work. But from the manufacturer's perspective, things can and do go wrong, either as a result of defects, but also from improper operation or inattention. They do their best to minimize the defects and to help educate owners as to proper operation. Nevertheless, they're human; we're human. Mistakes happen. We do our best to correct them and live our lives.
I would still suggest you have the tech investigate the possibility of water flowing the wrong way through the pump when you're hooked up to city water. If that's the root cause, it would have happened when the pump was off and would have been silently damaging the floor and probably the fresh water tank and fittings. Even though you're way out of warranty, Heartland might be more understanding of your situation if that's what caused the damage.